Monday, November 20, 2017

Ekla Chalo Re...

Sometimes, young people should learn to walk alone. Then you will be more centered and you will know how to be by yourself and not be bogged down by peer pressure. Take a long five kilometer walk all by yourself, or run by yourself. That will solidify your personality.
If you are surrounded by friends all the time, you will feel you cannot exist without friends. But if you are trained to take longs walks and runs, then you know that you can walk by yourself.

The poet Rabindranath Tagore has written a song called ‘Ekla Chalo Re’ (walk alone) and that song inspired so many people during the freedom struggle. Even if nobody comes, you walk by yourself, be a leader. If you get bogged down by peer pressure you can only be a follower, not a leader.
Why do you want company of your friends? It is because you want attention from them, and attention gives energy. And if you are not a leader, nobody is going to pay you attention especially in schools and colleges. So to overcome peer pressure what do you do? Stand up and walk alone.

- 🌹 Sri Sri Ravi Shankar🌹

Friday, November 10, 2017

Four behaviors that derail conversations.

THE MANAGEMENT TIP OF THE DAY: Harvard Business Review

November 08, 2017

Avoid These 4 Behaviors That Derail Conversations

When difficult conversations at work go wrong, they can rapidly devolve into unproductive arguments. Keep your discussion on track by minding the A-BCDs: Avoid Blame, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.

Blame: Try not to make assumptions about what your colleague is thinking, and don’t make groundless accusations. Keep the conversation focused on facts.

Contempt: Acknowledge when you’ve lashed out in exasperation, and do your best to avoid making judgments.

Defensiveness: Take responsibility for your part in the conversation. Are you open to input, or do you interpret new ideas as criticism?

Stonewalling: Commit to listening and contributing with an open mind, instead of avoiding an unpleasant topic or refusing to participate fully in the conversation.
Any of these behaviors can derail a discussion, so make a commitment to yourself — and your teammates — to avoid them.
Adapted from “8 Ways to Get a Difficult Conversation Back on Track,” by Monique Valcour

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

A word to parents and would be parents.

A word to parents and would be parents:

A 1963 Harvard graduate said this:

"My one big mistake in life has been providing a trust fund for my five' children. I'm very comfortable paying for an education for as long as they want to study in a reputable university. However, providing additional funds so they could have a lifestyle beyond what they have achieved on their own was a mistake."

A leadership teacher, John Maxwell says and I quote:

"If you do everything for your children, what will they do for themselves?"

By the time they finish university education, we have slaved and built houses for them, put car keys in their hands and bankrolled their wedding.

What will they do for themselves?

In the course of doing these for them, some people develop hypertension and all sorts of illnesses. Some slump and die. Some even steal to achieve these for their children.

I submit to you all that inheritance goes beyond material things. Give your children the right values, strong character and a revelatory knowledge of the power they carry as a creature of God!

Then they will create water to sell in the dessert and sell sand to the Arabs to build mansions for themselves.

Do something for your children to make them have a softer take off.

The keyword is "take off".

Do not take over their lives because you yourself have your life to live.

Think about these things critically and adjust your approach religiously. Above all teach them the word of God!!!

© 2017. A word to parents and would be parents

Monday, October 16, 2017

Happy Dhanteras. Happy Diwali. 😊👍 What is Puja?

What is puja?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: 

The word 'Pu' means fullness, and 'Ja' means that which is born out of fullness. So puja means that which is born out of fullness. And what you get out of doing puja is also fullness, and contentment. Doing puja creates a subtle vibration in the atmosphere which brings positivity.

Diwali is festival of lights. Lord Buddha said,"Appo deepo bhava", you become a light unto yourself. And the Vedas and Upanishads say'You are all lights, some of you are lit and some of you are unlit, but the potential to glow is in everyone'. 
So Diwali is the day to remove darkness. And to remove darkness, one light is not enough, the entire society will have to light up. It's not enough if just one person is happy in a family, every member has got to be happy. Even if one member is unhappy, the others cannot be happy. So said every home should light up.

The second thing we need to bring into our lives is sweetness. Distribute not just sweets but also sweetness to everybody. The festival of Diwali is to remind you that if you have any bitterness, any pressure, or any stress in your heart, like fire crackers burst it all out and start a fresh new life, and make it a celebration.

Diwali is celebrated on a new moon day, and on this day we invoke the Goddess Lakshmi. Goddess Lakshmi represents the divinity manifesting as the giver of prosperity. In India, God is not only 'He', God is also 'She'. So sometimes God is addressed as 'He' and sometimes as 'She'. Like how white light has seven colours in it, similarly the one divinity has many different flavours. So today is the day we will invoke Lakshmi with all the ancient chanting from the Rig Veda and feel the positive vibrations and the abundance.

The day before Diwali is called Dhanteras. In the ancient days, people would bring all the wealth on this day to the house and place it in front of the Divine. Usually people keep their wealth in the bank, or keep it in the lockers and hide it. But earlier, on Dhanteras day, they would put all their wealth in front, see it and feel abundant. Wealth is not only gold and silver, wealth is also wisdom. So it was celebrated like that. You also must cherish your wisdom and feel abundant.
Dhanteras is also the day of Ayurveda, as herbs are also a wealth. Herbs and plants are wealth. It is said that it was on the day ofDiwali the nectar was given to mankind.

So today, move ahead in life feeling that you are blessed, and feel contented. Whenever we feel blessed, more comes. There is this saying in Bible, "Those who have will be given more and those who do not, whatever little will also be taken back".
From the ancient time, the thought is -- you must feel the abundance. Abundance starts from within and then manifests on the outside. So you have plenty of blessings. Go with this feeling.

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Happiness is NOW Don't wait.

Happiness is NOW, don't wait…

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are.

After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are we able to go on a nice vacation, or when we retire.

The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.

It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with... and remember that time waits for no one.

So, stop waiting…

--until you get a new car or home

--until your kids leave the house

--until you lose 10 lbs.

--until you get married

--until you get a divorce

--until you have kids

--until you retire

--until you die

There is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So -- work like you don't need money, Love like you've never been hurt, And dance like no one's watching.

- Crystal Lloyd

Friday, October 13, 2017

Work Life Balance! Tread Softly. Go Gently.. Your family needs you.

Work Life Balance! Tread Softly. Go Gently.. Your family needs you.

A Doctor graduated to be the best and finest surgeon in the world. At  age 30, he got married. 

The joy of marrying a surgeon attracted his wife to him.

Few weeks after marriage leave he got back to work, thereafter he hardly spent some quality time with his wife.

Their relationship began to go sour.

Not that he's flirting around with other ladies. Not that he now had a bad company. But, at his work place, he was seen as TOO IMPORTANT.

Every patient wanted him. The nurses loved him to handle all the surgeries at hand.

One day, he got home very early from work. The wife was glad that he was at least early today. Just as he was dropping his briefcase, his phone rang and the following conversation went on.

Nurse: Sir, we need you now at the hospital. We have an emergency.

He said : I'm on my way.

The wife was angry with him. As usual, he told her, "Sorry".

This went on for so long.

But one unfortunate day, he had an accident. And....

He died!

The other doctors and surgeons mourned him. They gave his wife cash to take care of herself.

But, can money replace love?

Can some one ' replace a whole man?

You know the answer...

Not too long after, the wife went to that same hospital for some check up.

She was shocked to see someone in her husband's former post. Not only that, she heard someone calling the new surgeon as the best in that town.

She wept bitterly...

Do you know you are replaceable?

Do you know you are NOT too important?

Do you know someone else can do better than what you are doing or what you can do?

Do you know you are cherished now just because you can still perform your right?

Do you know you are celebrated because you are available and useful?

No one's saying you should not help out. No one's saying you should not be a celebrity. No one's saying you should not help others. No one's saying you should be not punctual

BUT,

Take time to rest. Take time to relax. Spend time with yourself.

As bitter as those truths, many of you fail to accept that...

Tread softly... Go gently...

Your family Values YOU

Only they miss the presence of you not the rest of the world.

Thursday, October 12, 2017

The Hedonic Treadmill

The ‘Hedonic Treadmill’

Let’s assume that you believe buying a fancy new car will make you happy. In the short term, it might: for the first week or so, you’ll probably experience great pleasure when you drive. Over time, however, your joy will fade, a phenomenon psychologists call hedonic adaptation. Before long, your new car will blend into your surroundings, and your mind will fixate on something else to pursue in the quest for happiness.

This cycle is called the Hedonic Treadmill: we pursue pleasurable things because we think they’ll make us happy. When we finally achieve or acquire what we’re seeking, we adapt to our success in a very short period of time, and our success no longer gives us pleasure. As a result, we begin seeking something new, and the cycle repeats.

The Hedonic Treadmill explains why people who achieve wealth, status, and fame continue to seek more. Since we’re not satisfied with what we have for very long, it’s only a matter of time before we fixate on something else to achieve or possess.

The Hedonic Treadmill is a major problem if you’d like to experience a feeling of success or achievement for an extended period of time. It’s possible to work hard, invest, sacrifice, and push your way to the top of your field, only to find yourself restless and despondent. You’d be surprised at how many “successful” people aren’t happy with their lives, even after they’ve achieved everything they set out to do.

Short-circuiting the Hedonic Treadmill is tricky: it’s a side effect of Caveman Syndrome. There are, however, a few things we can focus on that tend to lead to sustained levels of life satisfaction. Based on the available research, here are five priorities that will contribute to your long-term happiness in a way that minimizes hedonic adaptation:

1. Work to make “enough” money.

Money contributes to happiness, but only to a certain point. According to a study by Daniel Kahneman and Angus Deaton, money has a positive correlation with reported levels of happiness up to an annual income of approximately $75,000 USD per year, which represents an income in the top third of US households in 2008-2009, the years of the study. This level of income is very achievable: average household income in the study was $71,500.

Once you have enough money to cover the necessities and a few luxuries, you reach a point of Diminishing Returns: every $1 you earn doesn’t provide the same amount of utility. Beyond the point of Diminishing Returns, having more money doesn’t increase happiness, and may actually decrease it by becoming a source of stress and worry. (For examples of how money can decrease happiness, read Fables of Fortune: What Rich People Have That You Don’t Want by Richard Watts.)

Knowing your monetary point of Diminishing Returns is useful: by consciously limiting your consumption beyond a certain point and establishing long-term savings, you can reap the benefits of financial security and Resiliencewithout spending every waking moment working to pay for pleasures you’ll adapt to in less than a month.

As a general rule: experiences contribute more to happiness than material goods. Beyond the point where your needs are met, you’ll get a higher emotional return for your dollar by traveling with people you like than by purchasing an expensive luxury item.

2. Focus on improving your health and energy.

Health is a major contributing factor to happiness: when you feel great, you’re more likely to feel happy. The converse is also true: when you feel ill, you tend to experience less pleasure, enjoyment, and life satisfaction.

Experimenting with ways to improve your typical level of health and energy can result in huge improvements in your quality of life. Remember, the human body has Performance Requirements: food, exercise, and rest are not optional. If you make it a priority to give your body what it needs to thrive, you’ll reap the rewards over the years to come.

3. Spend time with people you enjoy.

One of the single biggest predictors of happiness is the amount of time you spend with people you enjoy: family, friends, and like-minded acquaintances. The context and environment are less important than the people you spend time with.

Different people need different levels of social contact to feel happy. Extroverted people feel energized by social contact, and need to be around others on a regular basis. Introverted people (like me) can go days or weeks with little social contact, and generally get their energy from spending time alone. Still, introverted people benefit from spending time with people they like: regular social time with friends is highly correlated with major sustained increases in life satisfaction. Long meals and trips with friends are a great use of time

According to Dr. George Vaillant, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development (the longest-running longitudinal study of mental health), the results of the study boil down to this: “the only thing that really matters in life are your relationships with other people.”

4. Remove chronic annoyances.

There are many things in life that can wear on your nerves. Examining ways to reduce or eliminate chronic stresses or annoyances can generate signifiant improvements in life satisfaction.

If you find driving in rush hour traffic stressful, moving closer to work is a good solution. If you don’t like your current job, start looking for another. If you find working with a particular customer annoying, fire them. If you always forget to pack your laptop’s power cable when you travel, buy a second cable that stays in your travel bag. By finding simple ways to remove unnecessary stress and frustration, you’ll spend less time and energy feeling bad, and more time feeling good.

5. Pursue a new challenge.

Most people assume retirees feel overjoyed, but that’s often not the case. It’s common for people to derive a sense of purpose and enjoyment from their work, and retirees can feel empty and lost when their former career is no longer a priority. Left unresolved, this sense of loss can spiral into depression.

The solution is to take on an exciting new challenge. This challenge can be anything: acquiring a new skill, completing a big project, or pursuing a major accomplishment. Whether it’s learning a new language, playing an instrument, building something from scratch, or completing a marathon, striving for new achievement is the best way to experience happiness and growth over long periods of time.

Focusing on experiences over material goods goes a long way if you want to step off the Hedonic Treadmill. In the immortal words of Charles Kingsley, a 19th century historian and clergyman: “We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all we need to make us happy is something to be enthusiastic about.”

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Sadgurus Advice to 40 years old and older.

Sadguru  ADVICE TO 40-YEARS OLD & OLDER

Because none of us have many years to live, and we can't take along anything when we go, so we don't have to be too thrifty.

Spend the money that should be spent, enjoy what should be enjoyed, donate what you are able to donate

DON'T WORRY about what will happen after we are gone, because when we return to dust, we will feel nothing about praises or criticisms. The time to enjoy the worldly life and your hard earned wealth will be over!

DON'T WORRY too much about your children, for children will have their own destiny and should find their own way.  Care for them, love them, give them gifts but also enjoy your money or what is left of it, while you can. Life should have more to it than working from the cradle to the grave!!

40-year olds, don't trade in - your health for wealth, by working yourself to an early grave anymore. Because your money may not be able to buy your health.

When to stop making money, and how much is enough.           

Out  of thousand hectares of good farm land, you can consume only three quarts (of rice) daily; out of a thousand mansions, you only need eight square meters of  space to rest at night.

So, as long as you have enough food and enough money to spend, that is good enough. You should live happily. Every family has its own problems.

Just DO NOT COMPARE with others for fame and social status and see whose children are doing better etc., but challenge others for happiness, health, enjoyment, quality of  life and longevity.

DON'T WORRY about things that you can't change because it doesn't help and it may spoil your health.

You have to create your own well-being and find your own place of happiness. As long  as you are in good mood and good health, think about happy things, do happy things daily and have fun in doing, then you will pass your time happily every day.

One day passes WITHOUT happiness, you will lose one day.
One day passes WITH happiness and then you gain one day.

In good spirit, sickness will cure;
In a happy spirit, sickness will cure faster;
in high and happy spirits, sickness will never come.

With good mood, exercise, sun, variety of foods, good amount of vitamin and mineral intake, hopefully you will live another 30 or 40 years of  healthy life

ABOVE ALL -
Learn to cherish the goodness around... like your lover,spouse and FRIENDS........... They all make you feel young and "wanted"... without them you are surely to feel lost !!

Wishing you all the best for the years to come.  Sadguru 💐🙏🔔

Saturday, October 07, 2017

Tirukkural

Tirukkural:

Tirukkural  was written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil  poet/writer) more than 5,000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education  & technology!

SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF THIRUKKURAL:

1. If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.

2. If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.

3. If your children had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.

4. If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.

6. If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.
 
8. If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.

9. If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it

10. If your children  intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.

11. If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.

12. If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.

13. If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.

14. If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions

15. If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right

Pls fwd this to Parents who care to read this!
IT MAY GUIDE OUR MODERN  PARENTING!

Wednesday, October 04, 2017

Yes, I am changing!

YES, I AM CHANGING!

Days slip into weeks, weeks turn into months and months transform into years. Calendars are changing and so am I.

Yes, I  am changing. In certain things age has mellowed me down, in others I have become more aggressive . Sometimes I find myself acting very wise and sometimes I just go crazy. Certain issues will have me speaking vociferously whereas at others I just shrug and remain silent.

Yes, I  am changing. After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.

Yes, I  am changing. I just realised that I am not “ Atlas ” and the world does not rest on my shoulders.

Yes, I  am changing. I now stopped bargaining with poor vegetables and fruits vendors. After all, a few rupees more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.

Yes, I  am changing. I pay the auto walla/ cab waala and walk away without waiting for the change.The extra money might bring a smile on his face.After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.

Yes, I  am changing. I stopped telling the elderly that they have already narrated that story many times.After  all, the story makes them walk down the memory lane and relive the past.

Yes, I  am changing. I have learn not to correct  people even when I know they are wrong. After all ,the onus of making everyone perfect is not on me.Peace is more precious than perfection.

Yes, I  am changing.  I give compliments freely and generously . After all its  a mood enhancer not only for the recipient but also for me.

Yes, I  am changing. I have learnt not to bother about my creased shirt or mismatched skirt.After all, personality speaks louder than appearances.

Yes, I  am changing. Nowadays I don't bother  if my eyebrows are not done or fine lines are showing on my forehead. After all beauty of my soul outshines the beauty of my face.

Yes, I  am changing. I am learning not to let others make me feel incompetent.After all I am not only what they see in me. I might not be good at certain things but I am excellent at others.

Yes, I  am changing. I walk  away from people who don't value me.After all, they might not know my worth, but I do.

Yes, I  am changing. I remain cool when someone plays dirty politics to outrun me in the rat race.After all I am not a rat and neither am I in any race.

Yes, I  am changing. I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions.After all it's my emotions that make me human.

Yes, I  am changing. I now tell  people if I like them.After all ,there is nothing wrong in liking someone.

Yes, I  am changing. I have learnt that its better to drop the ego than to break a relationship.After all, my ego will keep me aloof whereas with relationships I will never be alone.

Yes, I  am changing. I demand  for whatever  is due to me.After all, accepting injustice is almost as bad as doing injustice.

Yes, I  am changing. I've learnt to live each day as if it were the last. After all, it might be the last .

Yes, I  am changing. I am doing what makes me happy.After all, I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to me.

AND I'M LOVING THE NEW ME...

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Look inside. God dwells in your heart.

Worth a read especially for the stressed out !

A SPLITTING HEADACHE...

The proprietor of a coffee shop had been busy all day.
Being Saturday, it was very crowded and the customers were just unending.

He had been on his toes since morning.
Towards the evening he felt a splitting headache surfacing.

As the clock ticked away, his headache worsened. Unable to bear it, he stepped out of the shop leaving his staff to look after the sales.

He walked across the street to the Chemist, to buy himself a painkiller to relieve his headache.
He swallowed the pill and felt relieved.
He knew that in a few minutes he would feel better.

As he strolled out of the shop, he casually asked the salesgirl, "Where is Mr Savarkar (the Chemist)? He's not at the cash counter today!"

The girl replied, "Sir, Mr Savarkar had a splitting headache and said he was going across to the coffee shop.
He said a cup of hot coffee would relieve him of his headache."

The man's mouth went dry and he mumbled, "Oh! I see."

This is a typical case of looking outside ourselves for something that we have within us.
How strange but true!

The chemist relieves his headache by drinking coffee and the coffee shop owner finds relief in a pain relieving pill!

A man hunts across the lengths and breadths of the universe to find peace.
Eventually he finds it in his heart and realizes that peace is really a state of mind.

He undertakes many a pilgrimage to find God.
Eventually he realizes that God is the in- dweller of the heart.

Have an incredible Life...😃🙏🏽👍🏼🌺

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Are you Hurt? Remember, Happiness is always yours.

Are you Hurt?
Remember, Happiness is always yours.

On his first day in office as President, when Abraham Lincoln entered to give his inaugural address.

One man stood up. He was a rich Aristocrat.

He said, “Mr. Lincoln, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family.” And the whole Senate laughed; they thought they had made a fool of Lincoln.

But certain people are made of a totally different mettle.

Lincoln looked at the man directly in the eye and said, “Sir, I know that my father used to make shoes for your family, and there will be many others here. Because he made shoes the way nobody else can, he was a creator. His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul into them. I want to ask you, have you any complaint? Because I know how to make shoes myself. If you have any complaint I can make you another pair of shoes. But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father’s shoes. He was a genius, a great creator and I am proud of my father”.

The whole Senate was struck dumb. They could not understand what kind of man Abraham Lincoln was. He was proud because his father did his job so well that not even a single complaint had ever been heard.

Remember:

“No one can hurt you without your consent.”

“It is not what happens to us that hurts us. It is our response that hurts us. Be excellent at your work no matter what work you do,

Happiness is always yours.😀

Saturday, September 16, 2017

An Elephant Story.

An elephant took a bath in a river and was walking on the road. When it neared a bridge, it saw a pig fully soaked in mud coming from the opposite direction. The elephant quietly moved to one side, allowed the dirty pig to pass and then continued its onward journey.

The unclean pig later spoke to its friends in arrogance, “See how big I am; even the elephant was afraid of me and moved to one side to let me pass”.

On hearing this, some elephants questioned their friend, the reason for its action. Was it out of fear?

The elephant smiled and replied, “I could have easily crushed the pig under my leg, but I was clean and the pig was very dirty. By crushing it, my leg will become dirty and I wanted to avoid it. Hence, I moved aside.”

This story reveals :
Realized souls will avoid contact with negativity not out of fear, but out of desire to keep away from impurity though they are strong enough to destroy the impurity.

You need not react to every opinion, every comment, or every situation.

Kick the drama and keep going ahead.

Choose your battles wisely... Not everything deserves your time and attention.

Friday, September 15, 2017

Seven short stories shared by Satya Nadella, CEO, Microsoft.

7 short stories shared by Satya Nadella, CEO-Microsoft: Must Read.

1. LOOKING BACK:

Today, I interviewed my grandmother for part of a research paper I’m working on for my Psychology class. When I asked her to define success in her own words, she said, “Success is when you look back at your life and the memories make you smile."

2. LOVE CONQUERS PAIN:

Today, after I watched my dog get run over by a car, I sat on the side of the road holding him and crying. And just before he died, he licked the tears off my face.

3. LOOKING BACK:

Today, as my father, three brothers, and two sisters stood around my mother’s hospital bed, my mother uttered her last coherent words before she died. She simply said, “I feel so loved right now. We should have gotten together like this more often.”

4. AFFECTION:

Today, I kissed my dad on the forehead as he passed away in a small hospital bed. About 5 seconds after he passed, I realized it was the first time I had given him a kiss since I was a little boy.

5. JOY:

Today, when I witnessed a 27-year-old breast cancer patient laughing hysterically at her 2-year-old daughter’s antics, I suddenly realized that I need to stop complaining about my life and start celebrating it again.

6. KINDNESS:

Today, a boy in a wheelchair saw me desperately struggling on crutches with my broken leg and offered to carry my backpack and books for me. He helped me all the way across campus to my class and as he was leaving he said, “I hope you feel better soon.”

7. SHARING:

Today, I was traveling in Kenya and I met a refugee from Zimbabwe. He said he hadn’t eaten anything in over 3 days and looked extremely skinny and unhealthy. Then my friend offered him the rest of the sandwich he was eating. The first thing the man said was, “We can share it.”

Cheers to life..!😊

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

SEVEN LEADERSHIP PRINCIPLES TO LEARN FROM AN EAGLE....

SEVEN LEADERSHIP PRINCIPLES TO LEARN FROM AN EAGLE....

1. Eagles fly Alone and at Hi gh Altitudes.
They don't fly with crow, and other small birds.

MEANING; Stay away from narrow-minded people, those that bring you down. Eagle flies with Eagles. Keep good company.

2. Eagles have an Accurate Vision. They have the ability to focus on something as far as 5km away. No matter the obstacles, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it.

MEANING; Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacles and you will succeed.

3. Eagles do not Eat Dead things. They Feed only on Fresh Prey.

MEANING; Do not rely on your past success, keep looking for new frontiers to conquer. Leave your past where it belongs, in the past.

4. Eagles Love the Storm.
When clouds gather, the eagle gets excited, the eagle uses the storms wind to lift itself higher. Once it finds the wind of the storm, the eagle uses the raging storm to lift itself above the clouds. This gives the eagle an opportunity to glide and rest its wings. In the meantime, all the other birds hide in the branches and leaves of the tree.

MEANING; Face your challenges head on knowing that these will make you emerge stronger and better than you were. We can use the storms of life to rise to greater heights. Achievers are not afraid to rise to greater heights. Achievers are not afraid of challenges, rather they relish them and use them profitably.

5. When a Female Eagle Meets a Male Eagle and they want to mate, she flies down to earth, picks a twig and flies back into the air with the male eagle in hot pursuit. Once she has reached a height high enough for her, she drops the twig and let it fall to the ground while she watches. The male eagle chases after the twig and catches it before it reached the ground, then bring it back to the female eagle. The female eagle grabs the twig and flies to a much higher altitude and drop the twig again for the male eagle to chase. This goes on for hours with the height increasing each time until the female eagle is assured that the male eagle has mastered the art of picking the twig which shows commitment. Then and only then will she allow him to mate with her.

MEANING; Whether in private life or business, one should test the commitment of the people intended for partnership.

6. Eagles Prepare for Training;
They remove the feathers and soft grass in the nest so that the young ones get uncomfortable in preparation for flying and eventually flies when it becomes unbearable to stay in the nest.

MEANING; Leave your Comfort Zone, there is No Growth There.

7. When the Eagle Grows Old,
His feathers becomes weak and cannot take him as fast and as high as it should. This makes him weak and could make him die. So he retires to a place far away in the mountains. While there, he plucks out the weak feathers on his body and breaks its beaks and claws against the rocks until he is completely bare; a very bloody and painful process. Then he stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, new beaks and claws and then he comes out flying higher than before.

MEANING; We occasionally need to shed off old habit no matter how difficult, things that burden us or add no value to our lives should be let go of.

YES, NEVER GIVE UP,
BE AN EAGLE, NEVER EVER GIVE UP !!!

Don't we all need help?

*DON'T WE ALL*

I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car.

I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work.

Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would consider a tramp.

From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money.

There are times when you feel generous but there are other times that you just don't want to be bothered.

This was one of those "don't want to be bothered times."

"I hope he doesn't ask me for any money,"  I thought.

He didn't.

He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn't look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.

After a few minutes he spoke.

"That's a very pretty car," he said.

He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him.

His scraggly blond beard keep more than his face warm.

I said, "thanks," and continued wiping off my car.

He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came.

As the silence between us widened something inside said, "ask him if he needs any help."

I was sure that he would say "yes" but I held true to the inner voice.

"Do you need any help?" I asked.

He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget.

We often look for wisdom in great men and women.

We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments.

I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand.

He spoke the three words that shook me.

"Don't we all?" he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a tramp in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge shotgun.

*Don't we all?*

I needed help.

Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I needed help.

I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day.

Those three little words still ring true.

No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too.

No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help.

Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.

You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all.

They are waiting on you to give them what they don't have -

*A different perspective on life,

*a glimpse at something beautiful,

* a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see.

Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets.

Maybe he was more than that.

Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.

Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a tramp, then said, "go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."

*DON'T WE ALL?*

Matter of Perspective.

What a wonderful post. It changed my *perception on perception•

Sharing! .... Do read

A teacher teaching Maths to a six-year-old asked him, “If I give you one apple and one apple & one apple, how many apples will you have?”

With a few seconds the boy replied confidently, “Four!”

The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three).

She was disappointed. “May be the child did not listen properly,” she thought.

She repeated, “pls listen carefully.

It is very simple. You will be able to do it right if you listen carefully.

If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”

The boy had seen the disappointment on his teacher’s face.

He calculated again on his fingers.

But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make his teacher happy.

This time hesitatingly he replied, “Four...”

The disappointment stayed on teacher’s face.

She remembered that the boy loves strawberries.

She thought maybe he doesn’t like apples and that is making him lose focus.

This time with exaggerated excitement & twinkling eyes she asked ...

“If I give you one strawberry & one strawberry & one strawberry, then how many will you have?”

Seeing the teacher happy, the young boy calculated on his fingers again.

There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher.

She wanted her new approach to succeed.

With a hesitating smile, the young boy replied, “Three?”

The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded.

She wanted to congratulate herself.

But one last thing remained.

Once again she asked him, “Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?”

Promptly the answer was “Four!”

The teacher was aghast.

“How.... tell me, How?” she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.

In a voice that was low and hesitating young boy replied, “Because I already have one apple in my bag.”

Lessons to Learn: When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you are expecting, it is not necessarily they are wrong.

There may be an angle that we may not have understood at all.

We need to learn to appreciate and understand different perspectives.

Quite often, we try and impose our perspectives on others and then wonder what went wrong.

The next time someone gives you a different perspective than yours, sit down and gently ask " can you please help me understand"?......


Abilene Paradox - “The Inability to Manage Agreement".

The Abilene Paradox

"On my birthday a couple of years back, I wanted to take my family out for dinner. I asked my wife where we can go. Knowing that I like Indian food, she immediately said: “Let’s go to Rajdhani - The Thali Restaurant.”

My son and daughter both nodded in agreement. On return my son said: “I wish Pappa had taken us to Mainland China – he loves Chinese food.” “Or at least to Copper Chimney for the wonderful Punjabi food” added my daughter. “Yes, I too would have loved to go Mainland China”, I said.

My wife looked surprised: “But didn’t we all unanimously agree to go to Rajdhani” she asked.

I said sheepishly “I didn’t want you to feel bad.” And both my children nodded in agreement. Here were four people who of their own volition would not have gone to ‘Rajdhani - The Thali Restaurant', but collectively agreed to go there. "

This also happens in the corporate world. This is the Abilene Paradox. Prof. Jerry Harvey calls it “The Inability to Manage Agreement”.

Abilene Paradox occurs when a group of people collectively decide on a course of action that is contrary to the preferences of many of the individuals in the group.

Prof. Harvey states in his paper ‘The Abilene Paradox’: “Organizations frequently take actions in contradiction to what they really want to do and therefore defeat the very purpose they are trying to achieve”. This is the inability to manage agreement.

He adds: “The inability to manage agreement, not the inability to manage conflict, is the essential symptom that defines organizations caught in the web of the Abilene Paradox.”

In the corporate world, when the top boss throws an idea, the group immediately agrees. This is because everyone in the group thinks he would look stupid if he disagrees.  Standing out as a lone voice is very embarrassing. This leads the group to decide on ‘yes’ when ‘no’ would have been the personal (and the correct) response of the majority.

I love this from Ayn Rand: “If we have an endless number of individual minds who are weak, meek, submissive and impotent – who renounce their creative supremacy for the sake of the “whole” and accept humbly the ‘whole’s verdict’ – we don’t get a collective super-brain. We get only the weak, meek, submissive and impotent collective mind.”

Life's Little Joys.

Beautiful Story 👍 Made Me Smile 😊
I hope this makes everyone else smile too.

A man often bought oranges from an old lady.
After they were weighed, paid for and put in his bag, he would always pick one from his bag, peel it, put a segment in his mouth, complain it's sour and pass on the orange to the seller.

The old lady would put one segment in her mouth and retort, "why, it's sweet," but by then he was gone with his bag.

His wife, always with him, asked, "the oranges are always sweet, then why this drama every time?"
He smiled, "the old Mother sells sweet oranges but never eats them herself. This way I get her to eat one, without losing her money. That's all."

The vegetable seller next to the old lady, saw this everyday.
She chided, "every time this man fusses over your oranges, and I see that you always weigh a few extra for him. Why?"
The old lady smiled, "I know he does this to feed me an orange, only, he thinks I don't understand. I never weigh extra. His love tilts the scale slightly every time."

*Life's joys are in these sweet little gestures of love and respect for our fellow beings*
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🙏🙏*

*O God, Grant us always the ability to show such amazing kindness and Gestures
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50 Most positive one liners.

🌞50 most positive one liners...
1. Have a firm handshake.
2. Look people in the eye.
3. Sing in the shower.
4. Own a great stereo system.
5. If in a fight, hit first, and hit hard.
6. Keep secrets.
7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
9. Be brave. Even if you are not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
10. Whistle.
11. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
12. Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.
13. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
14. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
16. When playing games with children, let them win.
17. Give people a second chance, always.
18. Be romantic.
19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
20. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
21. Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for our convenience, not the caller's.
22. Be a good loser for your
loved ones.
23. Be a good winner of
Hearts.
24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
25. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
27. Keep it simple.
28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
29. Don't burn bridges. You will be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read: "No Regrets!".
31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you will regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
32. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
33. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
34. Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
35. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
36. Begin each day with some of your favourite music.
37. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
38. Forgive quickly. Life is short.
39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
40. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 AM.
41. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
43. Make someone's day by encouraging them.
44. Become someone's hero.
45. Marry only for love.
46. Count your blessings.
47. Compliment the meal when you are a guest in someone's home.
48. Wave at the children on a school bus.
49. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
50. Don't expect life to be fair...

Good Practices followed by Army Officers.

Some of the Good Practices Followed by the Army Officers in Army

1.        Always follow the FM Chitwode;s Motto taught in the Indian Military Academy:

      “First - the Safety, Honor and Welfare of your Country come First–Always and Every time.

       Second – the Honor, Welfare and Comfort of the Men You Command come Next.

       Third – Your Own Ease, Comfort and Safety come Last – Always and Every Time”

2.     Never criticise the predecessor or organisation.

3.     Never carry your bad baggage to the new office.

4.     Never criticise food, staff and facilities.

5.     Senior always foots the bill when entertaining juniors in the cafe.

6.     Take full responsibility for failures and give full credit for all good work to subordinates.

7.     Never take meal before men during any ops.

8.     Never ask for personal rewards for any good work.

9.     Army courts donot adjourn for more than few days.

10. Cannot sit over a mail of letter for lack/ delay in decision.

11. Mail/ comn to be sent on Need Basis, unlike civil cc to all.

12.  Treat govt money as your own.

13.  Vigorous Persuasion of agenda points post meeting.

14.   Rarely a  tea parties during office hours.

15.  Learn to adapt- Every two years one is in a different chair, task, env, location and men.

16.  Leave your worries at home. None is interested.

17. Best of friends suddenly turn foe when one does a wrong thing.

18.  We fix accountability irrespective of relocations/ change of job.

19.  Understand- Nothing remains confidential when sent electronically.

20.   Be wise to take decisions since lives are always at stake.

21.  A bad decision will not cause financial loss or crash share market, but  human lives.

22. Take no cognizance of anonymous letters.

23.   Never discuss women, wine, wealth, politics and religion.

24. Your religion is the religion of your men.

25.  When one visits temple, he must visit Gurudwara, Mosque and Church if co- located.

26.  Never demean anyone.

27.  Never insult anyone in public.

28.  Never insult / bullshit anyone in front of his/ her juniors.

29. Never shout in the public/ mess.

30.  Always meet and pat he last man in the chain/ command.

31. Always dress for the specific occasion/ event.

32.  Never receive anyone in Chapels or sandals.

33.  Always dress up when expecting someone.

34.  Never visit another officer if an office in chapels/ sandals.

35.  Never wear high heels for any official function.

36. Always attend to the ladies  first irrespective of her status, position or relationship.

37. Never be late for any official or pvt event .

38. If late, simply say sorry. No excuse like traffic jams, tyre puncture, imp call etc.

39. Never borrow money from junior. Learn to manage.

40. Be miser while using Govt money/ resources.

41.  When calling on someone, seek permission to leave after 30 min or max 45 min.

42. Never have more than two drinks when it is on the house.

43. Eat something light prior to going for a formal cocktails.

44. Ensure last man gets sufficient food.

45.   Always have a Check List for every activity.

46.  Late last night cannot be an excuse to be late the next day.

47.  Never task a junior if you cannot perform the same task.

48. Biggest welfare of the subordinates lies in training them .

Enchanting Kerala.


Kerala

The first beggar-free city in India.

India’s first ‘Digital State’ -2015

The first state to have 100% banking inclusion - 2007

First school for girls (1859) unprecedented in the Indian subcontinent

First mosque in India is 629 AD( 7th oldest in the world)

First church in India (52 AD). Christianity has been in Kerala longer than it has been in Europe.

First synagogue in India
(the oldest active synagogue in the Commonwealth of Nations)

The first state in India to reach 100% literacy rate.

The first state in India to receive rain from the Southwest monsoon :)

UNICEF and the World Health Organization(WHO) designated Kerala the world's first "baby-friendly state"

Listed in world top 5 family destinations by Lonely Planet repeatedly (in 2016 as well)

UN awarded Kerala for its global leadership in creating innovative initiatives for sustainable tourism, (the first time India has ever won the recognition)

Natgeo - Ten Paradises of the world' and '50 of the world's top places to see

Highest Human Development Index

The highest literacy rate

The highest life expectancy(77yrs)

The highest sex ratio (F more the M)

The highest media exposure (99%)

Highest % of elders (12.6 %)

Cleanest city 2016 -Centre for Science and Environment (CSE) on the basis solid municipal waste mgmt

Highest per capita liquor consumption

Highest gold buyers (20 % India yrly)

The highest mobile penetration

Highest road density in India (5,268.69 km per 1,000 sq km

Highest home ownership (87.5 %)

The highest rural per capita consumption per month

Highest Remittances -40% of india
Rs 1 lakh crore ($14.9 billion) in the third quarter of 2015-16.

Highest hospitals beds 330 beds per 100000

Kerala with only 2.76 per cent of Indian population, utilises  nearly 15 per cent of the consumer durables in India

The leading destination for luxury cars (13 % sales of premium cars.)

BSNL-Kerala is the highest profit making circle in the country

Ranks second as state with least poverty (Goa is 1) .7%  while national average is 21.92%.

Lowest maternal mortality rate.

Lowest Infant mortality rate (12 per 1,000 ) India stands at 44!

Lowest Hunger index -17.66 (India is 23.31.)

The lowest population growth rate.

The least corrupted state. 
All the 11 public services are ranked the least corrupt in the country

Only state where Ayurveda is still a main stream medicine

25% of India's 15,000 plant species are in Kerala.

Supplies 60% of worlds white coir fibre.

The world's oldest teak plantation.

Has the oldest existing martial art form, Kalaripayattu, dates back more than 2000 years.

Has the oldest library. (184 years)

Richest temple in the world: - Padmanabhaswamy Temple is in Kerala. This is also the richest place of worship in the world of all times with estimated $22 billion worth of gold and jewels stored in underground vaults (not accounting for historical value)

Kerala is the only state in India with palliative care policy (Palliative care is an approach that improves the quality of life of patients and their families facing the problem associated with life-threatening illness)

Kerala has only 3% of India's population but It provides two-thirds of India's palliative care services.


Kerala had been a notable centre of Vediclearning, having produced one of the most influential Hindu philosophers, Adi Shankaracharya.

In feudal Kerala, though only the Nambudiris received an education in Vedas, other castes as well as women were open to receive education in Sanskrit, mathematics and astronomy, in contrast to other parts of India

This level of learning by non-Brahmin learning was not seen in other parts of India.

Three gold loan companies in Kerala have more precious metal in their vaults than the gold reserves of Singapore, Sweden or Australia.

Worlds Largest and Longest Teak are in Kerala.

Worlds Only Teak Museum is in Nilambur, Kerala .

The only drive in Beach in India is Muzhuppilangadi, Kannur, North Kerala

 

Ten Inspiting Quotes from Mother Teresa.


TEN INSPIRING QUOTATIONS FROM MOTHER TERESA.
. The poor do not need our sympathy and pity, the poor need our love and compassion.
2. If you can't feed hundred people than just feed one.
3. Peace begins with a smile.
4. I do not pray for success. I asks for faithfulness
5. What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.
6. God doesn't require us to success, he require that only you try.
7. If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive.
8. Some people come in our life as a blessing and some come in our life as a lessons.
9. Not all of us can do great things but we can do small thing with great love.
10. If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

Going Beyond your Duty.

A man was asked to paint a boat.
He brought with him paint and brushes and began to paint the boat a bright red, as the owner asked him.
While painting, he realized there was a hole in the hull and decided to repair it.
When finished painting, he received his money and left.
The next day, the owner of the boat came to the painter and presented him with a nice check, much higher than the payment for painting.
The painter was surprised:
- You've already paid me for painting the boat!
- he said.
- But this is not for the  paint job.

It's for having repaired the hole in the boat.
- Ah! But it was such a small service ... certainly it's not worth paying me such a high amount for something so insignificant!
My dear friend, you do not understand. Let me tell you what happened. When I asked you to paint the boat, I forgot to mention about the hole.
When the boat dried, my kids took the boat and went on a fishing trip.
They did not know that there was a hole.
I was not at home at that time.
When I returned and noticed they had taken the boat, I was desperate because I remembered that the boat had a hole.

Imagine my relief and joy when I saw them returning from fishing.

Then, I examined the boat and found that you had repaired the hole! You see, now, what you did?You saved the life of my children! I do not have enough money to pay your "small" good deed.

💙 So, no matter who, when or how. Just continue to help, sustain, wipe tears, listen attentively and carefully repair all the "leaks"* you find, because you never know when one is in need of us or when God holds a pleasant surprise for us to be helpful and important to someone.
You may have repaired numerous "boat holes" along the way, of several people without realizing how many lives you've saved.


 

 

Symptoms Of INNER PEACE:

Symptoms Of INNER PEACE:

1) Frequent Attacks Of Smiling
2) Frequent Overwhelming Episodes Of Appreciation
3) Loss Of Interest In Judging Other People In Their Actions
4) Loss Of Ability To Worry
5) Tendency To Act Based On Hope Rather Than On Fear
6) Ability To Enjoy Each Moment
7) Susceptibility To Give & Receive Love
8) Sharing Whatever Little You Have To People With Less In Life

If Symptoms Persist,
Just PRAISE & THANK the almighty power within!
😊

 

35 ancient Japanese sayings.

35 ancient Japanese sayings.
  • If a problem can be solved, then it’s not worth worrying about it. If it can’t be solved, then it’s useless to worry about it.
  • Having taken the time to think, venture to act. Once you’ve done so, stop thinking.
  • Do not hold back that which is departing; do not chase away that which is arriving.
  • Fast means going slowly without interruption.
  • It is better to be the enemy of a good person than the friend of a bad one.
  • There has never been a great individual who did not have ordinary people at their side.
  • He who strongly desires to rise up will think of a way to build a ladder.
  • A husband and wife should be similar to a hand and an eye: when one’s hand hurts, the eyes cry; and when the eyes cry, the hand wipes away one’s tears.
  • The sun does not know who is right or who is wrong. It shines without purpose and provides warmth to all.
  • A frog in a well does not know the greatness of the sea.
  • A long journey always begins with a short one.
  • He who drinks does not know the dangers of wine; he who doesn’t drink does not know its benefits.
  • Even if a sword is only required once in a lifetime, it should be worn all the time.
  • Beautiful flowers do not bear good fruit.
  • Grief, like a torn dress, should always be left at home.
  • When one is in love, even the scars left by smallpox are as beautiful as dimples on a person’s cheeks.
  • No one has ever stumbled whilst lying in bed.
  • One kind word can keep you warm for three months of winter.
  • Always make way for fools and madmen.
  • If you want to paint a branch, you have to hear the breath of the wind.
  • Check seven times before ever doubting someone.
  • Do everything that you can and leave the rest to fate.
  • Excessive honesty often borders on stupidity.
  • Fortune will always come in to a house with laughter.
  • He who endures for just half an hour longer than his opponent can achieve victory.
  • As soon as stones can swim, leaves will sink.
  • Even monkeys can fall from their trees.
  • Cold tea and cold rice are tolerable; what is intolerable is a cold gaze and harsh words.
  • If you do not enter the tiger’s cave, you will not catch its cub.
  • If a woman wants something, she’ll climb a mountain to get it.
  • Ask a question and you feel shame for a moment. Not asking and not knowing means you will feel shame for your whole life.
  • A bad craftsman never made a perfect vase.
  • The earth always hardens after the rain.
  • The deepest rivers flow in silence.
  • If you decide to set off on your own journey, you’ll find yourself alone for a thousand kilometers.

Avoid Hesitation - A moments hesitation can cost us your greatest victory.

Neil Armstrong, he is the 1st person to set his foot in moon.

But, do you know who was supposed to be the 1st person?  Many don't know...

His name is Edwin C Aldarin...
He was the pilot for the Apollo mission. He was working for the American Airforce. Moreover he had experience of space walking, hence selected as the pilot.

Neil Armstrong worked for the American Navy. He was selected for his courage as co-pilot.

When the Apollo mission landed on moon, they received a command from NASA, "pilot first".

But Aldarin was hesitant, "what will happen", "will I get sucked in or will I burn out", etc. The hesitation was not for hours, but few seconds.

In the meantime, NASA sent the next command, "co-pilot next".

Within next second, Neil Armstrong put his foot on the moon & became part of world history.

World history was changed in 1 second... Though Aldarin had the qualification and talent, because of hesitation, he is not recognised by many people.

The world remembers only person who comes first...
This is a good example of how people lose out because of hesitation & fear. *Whenever you see the moon, remember this*, a moments hesitation can stop us from our *greatest victory*.

*We all have great potential* in us, the only thing that stops us from achieving what we are supposed to achieve is our hesitation, fear and shyness.

Many people are shy to ask, shy to appreciate others, & some are shy to share this message. If we fail to do the right things, we will most likely do the wrong things.

Avoid hesitation.

Enjoy your Coffee.

Very good story. Will Change our vision.

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to
visit their old university professor.

Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups porcelain, plastic,
glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite -
telling them to help themselves to hot coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want

Only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you
consciously went for the best cups and were eyeing each other's cups.

Now if life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change. Some times, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it."

Don't let the cups drive you... Enjoy the coffee instead .

HAVE A GREAT DAY WITH THIS WONDERFUL THOUGHT ON MIND...

Autophagy nobel prize and the importance of fasting.

This year's Nobel prize for medicine has gone to a Japanese scientist Dr. Yoshinori Ohsumi for his research on autophagy. Autophagy means to "self eat". In other words, the process by which the human body eats it own damaged cells and unused proteins. Autophagy is a natural process and also one which occurs in cases of starvation. The failure of autophagy is one of the main reasons for accumulation of damaged cells which eventually leads to various diseases in the body. Autophagy is important to prevent/fight cancer and also plays a vital role in degrading and 'consuming' cells infected by bacteria and viruses.

I have to observe here that ancient India had recommended a practice of fasting (Ekadasi) one day in a fortnight. Many of us religiously follow this practice to this day as a penance for spiritual progress without any idea of the biological and therapeutic benefits of this practice. Through this process of fasting induced autophagy, our body repaired its damaged and degenerated cells or used up the proteins of the damaged cells for its survival.

Whenever modern science conquers a frontier in any field, it somehow relates back to a quaint spiritual practice followed in India for generations.

A day in a fortnight spent in prayer and divine contemplation was a tonic for the mind and soul while the practice of fasting ensured that the body would heal and rejuvenate itself.

Clearly, our ancients believed in a process of holistic healing of both the body and the mind.  They were able to, quite remarkably, connect the yearning for spiritual progress in a human being with the biological necessity of the human body. One cannot but marvel, and bow our heads with admiration and reverence, at their wisdom and deep scientific understanding of the body and the mind.

Fifty Positive One Liners.


Fifty Positive One-Liners..

Worthy of reading again & again..

Simple and Straight..

1. Have a firm handshake.
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2. Look people in the eye.
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3. Sing in the shower.
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4. Own a great stereo system.
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5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
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6. Keep secrets.
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7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
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8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
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9. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
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10. Whistle.
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11. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
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12. Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness, or misery.
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13. Make it a habit to do nice things, for people who will never find out.
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14. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
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15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
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16. When playing games with children, let them win.
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17. Give people a second chance, always.
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18. Be romantic.
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19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
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20. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
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21. Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for our convenience, not the caller's.
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22. Be a good loser for your
loved ones.
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23. Be a good winner of hearts.
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24. Think twice, before burdening a friend with a secret.
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25. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
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26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
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27. Keep it simple.
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28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
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29. Don't burn bridges.
You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
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30. Live your life, so that your epitaph could read..
'No Regrets.'
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31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
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32. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
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33. Remember, no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
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34. Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
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35. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
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36. Begin each day with some of your favourite music.
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37. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
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38. Forgive quickly. Life is short.
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39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
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40. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 am.
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41. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
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42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
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43. Make someone's day, by encouraging them.
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44. Become someone's hero.
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45. Marry only for love.
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46. Count your blessings.
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47. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.
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48. Wave at the children on a school bus.
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49. Remember, that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
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50. Don't expect life to be fair. It rarely seems so.
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A reminder of lists every Catholic Should be Familiar With

A reminder of lists every Catholic Should be Familiar With

The 7 Sacraments (The Holy Mysteries)
1.Baptism
2.Confirmation (Chrismation)
3.Eucharist
4.Penance (Confession, Reconciliation)
5.Matrimony
6.Holy Orders
7.Extreme Unction (Annointing of the Sick


The 7 Corporal Works of Mercy
1.To feed the hungry
2.To give drink to the thirsty
3.To clothe the naked
4.To shelter the homeless
5.To visit the sick
6.To visit the imprisoned
7.To bury the dead


The 7 Spiritual Works of Mercy
1.To counsel the doubtful
2.To instruct the ignorant
3.To admonish the sinner
4.To comfort the sorrowful
5.To forgive all injuries
6.To bear wrongs patiently
7.To pray for the living and the dead


The 3 Eminent Good Works
1.Prayer
2.Fasting
3.Almsgiving


The 7 Gifts of the Holy Ghost
1.Wisdom
2.Understanding
3.Counsel
4.Fortitude
5.Knowledge
6.Piety
7.Fear of the Lord

Class of Gifts of the Holy Ghost known as Charismata
1.Gift of speaking with wisdom
2.Gift of speaking with knowledge
3.Faith
4.Grace of healing
5.Gift of miracles
6.Gift of prophecy
7.Gift of discerning spirits
8.Gift of tongues
9.Gift of interpreting speeches


The 12 Fruits of the Holy Ghost
1.Charity
2.Joy
3.Peace
4.Patience
5.Benignity
6.Goodness
7.Longanimity
8.Mildness
9.Faith
10.Modesty
11.Continency
12.Chastity


The 3 Theological Virtues
1.Faith
2.Hope
3.Charity


The 4 Cardinal Virtues
1.Prudence
2.Justice
3.Fortitude
4.Temperance


The 7 Capital Sins
1.Pride
2.Greed
3.Lust
4.Anger
5.Gluttony
6.Envy
7.Sloth


The 6 Sins against the Holy Ghost
1.Presumption
2.Despair
3.Resisting the known truth
4.Envy of another’s spiritual good
5.Obstinacy in sin
6.Final impenitence


The 4 Sins that Cry Out to Heaven
1.Willful murder
2.The sin of Sodom
3.Oppression of the poor
4.Defrauding laborers of their wages


Conditions for Mortal Sin
1.Grave matter
2.Full knowledge
3.Deliberate consent


The 9 Ways We Participate in Others' Sins
1.By counsel
2.By command
3.By consent
4.By provocation
5.By praise or flattery
6.By concealment
7.By partaking
8.By silence
9.By defense of the ill done


The 10 Commandments
1.Thou shalt not have other gods besides Me
2.Thou shalt not take the Name of the Lord thy God in vain
3.Remember to keep holy the Lord’s day
4.Honor thy father and thy mother
5.Thou shalt not murder
6.Thou shalt not commit adultery
7.Thou shalt not steal
8.Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor
9.Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife
10.Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s goods


The 2 Greatest Commandments
1.To love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, soul, mind and strength.
2.To love thy neighbor as thyself.


The 3 Evangelical Counsels
1.Voluntary poverty
2.Perpetual chastity
3.Entire obedience.


The 6 Precepts of the Church (The Duties of a Catholic)
1.To go to Mass and refrain from servile work on Sundays and holy days
2.To go to Confession at least once a year (traditionally done during Lent)
3.To receive the Eucharist at least once a year, during the Easter Season (known as the "Easter duty")
4.To observe the days of fasting and abstinence
5.To help to provide for the needs of the Church according to one's abilities and station in life
6.To obey the marriage laws of the Church


The 3 Powers of the Soul
1.Memory
2.Intellect
3.Will


The 4 Pillars of the Catholic Faith
1.The Apostles Creed
2.The Seven Sacraments
3.The Ten Commandments
4.The Lord's Prayer


The 3 Pillars of the Church's Authority
1.Sacred Scripture
2.Sacred Tradition
3.Living Magisterium


The 3 Munera (Duties of the Ordained)
1.Munus docendi (duty to teach, based on Christ's role as Prophet)
2.Munus sanctificandi (duty to sanctify, based on Chris's role as Priest)
3.Munus regendi (duty to shepherd, based on Christ's role as King)


The 3 Parts of the Church
1.The Church Militant (Christians on Earth)
2.The Church Suffering (Christians in Purgatory)
3.The Church Triumphant (Christians in Heaven)


The 4 Marks of the Church
1.Unity
2.Sanctity
3.Catholicity
4.Apostolicity


The 12 Tribes of Israel
In order of their birth:
1.Reuben
2.Simeon
3.Levi
4.Judah
5.Zabulon
6.Issachar
7.Dan
8.Gad
9.Asher
10.Naphtali
11.Joseph (Menasseh and Ephraim)
12.Benjamin


The 8 Beatitudes
1.Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.
2.Blessed are the meek: for they shall posses the land.
3.Blessed are they who mourn: for they shall be comforted
4.Blessed are they that hunger and thirst after justice: for they shall have their fill
5.Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy
6.Blessed are the clean of heart: for they shall see God
7.Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called children of God
8.Blessed are they that suffer persecution for justice' sake, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven


The 14 Stations of the Cross
1.Jesus is Condemned to Die
2.Jesus is Made to Bear His Cross
3.Jesus Falls the First Time
4.Jesus Meets His Mother
5.Simon Helps Jesus Carry His Cross
6.Veronica Wipes Jesus' Face
7.Jesus Falls the Second Time
8.Jesus Meets the Women of Jerusalem
9.Jesus Falls the Third Time
10.Jesus is Stripped
11.Jesus is Nailed to the Cross
12.Jesus Dies on the Cross
13.Jesus is Taken Down from the Cross
14.Jesus is Laid in the Tomb


The 15 Mysteries of the Holy Rosary & When They are Prayed

Joyful:
1.Annunciation
2.Visitation
3.Nativity
4.Presentation
5.Finding Jesus in the Temple

Sorrowful:
1.Agony in the Garden
2.The Scourging
3.Crowning with thorns
4.Carrying of the Cross
5.Crucifixion
                                                     

Luminous.                                     
1. Baptism of Jesus.
2. Manifestation of Jesus at the wedding feast of Cana.
3. Proclamation of the kingdom of God.
4. The Transfiguration.
5. The institution of the Holy Eucharist 

Glorious:
1.Resurrection
2.Ascension
3.Pentecost
4.Assumption
5.Crowning of Mary

Mondays: Joyful
Tuesdays: Sorrowful
Wednesdays:Glorious
Thursdays: Joyful
Fridays: Sorrowful
Saturdays: Glorious
Sundays in Advent, Christmastide & Epiphany: Joyful
Sundays in Eastertide & Time After Pentecost:Glorious
All of Septuagesima & Lent: Sorrowful


The 9 Choirs of Angels
In ascending order:
1.Angels
2.Archangels
3.Principalities
4.Powers
5.Virtues
6.Dominions
7.Thrones
8.Cherubim
9.Seraphim


The 3 Levels of Reverence
1.Dulia:the reverence we give to Saints
2.Hyperdulia:the reverence we give to Mary as the greatest of Saints and Mother of God
3.Latria:the reverence and worship we give to God alone


The 14 Holy Helpers
1.St. George, Martyr, April 23
2.St. Blaise, Bishop and Martyr, February 3
3.St. Pantaleon, Martyr, July 27
4.St. Vitus, Martyr, June 15
5.St. Erasmus (Elmo), Bishop and Martyr, June 2
6.St. Christopher, Martyr, July 25
7.St. Giles, Abbot, September 1
8.St. Cyriacus (Cyriac), Martyr, August 8
9.St. Achatius, Martyr, May 8
10.St. Dionysius (Denis), Bishop and Martyr, October 9
11.St. Eustachius (Eustace), Martyr, September 20
12.St. Catherine of Alexandria, Virgin and Martyr, November 25
13.St. Margaret of Antioch, Virgin and Martyr, July 20
14.St. Barbara, Virgin and Martyr, December 4


The 7 Last Words of Christ
1.Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do. (Luke 23:34)
2.Amen I say to thee: This day thou shalt be with me in paradise.  (Luke 23:43)
3.Woman, behold thy son. . . .Behold thy mother. (John 19:26-27)
4.Eli, Eli, lamma sabacthani? (My God, My God, why hast Thou forsaken me?) (Matthew 27:46, ref. Psalm 21)
5.I thirst. (John 19:28)
6.It is consummated.(John 19:30)
7.Father, into Thy hands I commend my spirit. (Luke 23:46, ref. Psalm 30:6)


The 4 Last Things (The Novissima)
1.Death
2.Ju